Thursday, January 30, 2020

The Wage Gap

... is irrelevant.

When I have time to kill, I play Jungle Gem on my phone. It's one of those brainless gem games where you have to match gems to make things happen. Think Connect 4, but without all the 19th Century English literature and quadratic equations.

Yes, it's that stupid.

It's also free, so it's paid for with ads. The ads are clever, able to see where I've browsed, so I've gotten ads for Louisiana Crawfish Company, which I've checked out online. It also has ads for other games, insurance companies, Uber and more. No big deal, right?

Just recently, I've started getting ads for some softcore porn games. They feature impossibly-shaped women giggling like morons as you remove clothes or interact with them. Meh.

As of yesterday, I've begun seeing ads for Bigo Live. This Bigo Live.

SaferKid's warning doesn't surprise me at all as the ads feature videos of teenage girls wearing next to nothing, writhing about. I found this article about it in the Hindustan Times. It's essentially a porn-on-demand app.
(I)n India, the application has become a platform for obscene content -- with mostly men flocking to live-stream windows of women responding to their comments and video calls. A quick glance at the application shows multiple thumbnails featuring objectionable images of women.

While some of the live streams are “harmless” ones of women or men dancing or doing random things, some feature women making innuendos and lewd gestures. At the bottom of the live stream screen, you’ll notice a flurry of messages asking the women to perform certain activities or respond to their messages (similar to comments on a live video on Facebook).

I opened a live stream of a vlogger called “Tannu”, who could be seen lying in bed in her night gown. The camera mostly focused on her breasts. The screen displayed a phone number where she demanded the transfer of a certain amount of money in her Paytm account, after which would make a WhatsApp video call to the person concerned.
How big is it? According to the article, Bigo Live claims to have 150,000,000 users around the world. That's a whole lot of little girls getting paid for some indirect action while degrading themselves. I would bet that Indian women, like Japanese women and American women, are starting to wonder where all the good men have gone. I don't know, girls, maybe you ought to stop worrying about how many women get one-in-a-million jobs like Fortune 500 CEO slots and start worrying about the 50,000,000 chicks who will give thrills away for a small fee.

One question: Is this part of the patriarchy?


Foxfier said...

The Village Bike phenomina has always been an issue for chaste women; the new issue is that folks with power stopped shaming the 'riders' and started shaming the chaste.

Ohioan@Heart said...

The wage gap is irrelevant. The death gap isn’t... Enjoy:

Ilíon said...

"One question: Is this part of the patriarchy?"


Unless conservatives and/or Christians become aware of it and object. Then it's "empowering".

tim eisele said...

"are starting to wonder where all the good men have gone."

The thing is, porn doesn't satisfy the need for companionship, mutual support in getting through life's various difficulties, or having and raising children. And if a guy can be fully satisfied by porn, then that means he has little or no desire for any of those things.

And a guy who doesn't want those things is going to be pretty crappy husband/father material.

I am therefore not convinced that porn is removing any significant number of good men from the marriage pool. It is just thinning out the crowds, so that those good men are the only ones left. Maybe women appear to have fewer possibilities, but when the possibilities that have been removed are the awful ones, this strikes me as a net win for them. I think it is better to not find a husband at all, than to get stuck with a lousy one.

K T Cat said...

Tim, brain chemistry studies disagree with you. If you look at it as a normal distribution, you're moving the marker of eligible men to the right as more and more men become addicted to porn. They aren't becoming addicted to porn because they didn't want relationships, they're becoming addicted because it was available, plentiful and immediately gratifying to their needs. Once they get hooked, relationships become difficult if not impossible. A large percentage of them start out as eligible and end up as eunuchs.

K T Cat said...

Foxie, isn't it amazing that people trying to defend us from this scourge are under the most attack?

Foxfier said...

What's that line, something about if you're drawing fire you might be over the target?

Foxfier said...

Misery loves company, and there's pride in not wanting to admit you made a mistake... especially if it was a horrible one... and "sex sells" is so obvious that it hardly needs to be said.

Saying something is wrong is going to make the folks doing it feel bad. Especially if they agree.

tim eisele said...

"available, plentiful and immediately gratifying to their needs."

And that is my point. Men who have needs other than just raw sex cannot have them gratified by porn, and are therefore not the ones that become addicted to it. Sure, the guys who get addicted have their brain chemistry altered, but only because it was satisfying the only need that they valued in the first place. I have seen porn. I know what it is. And it is not particularly compelling to me, because it is not what I need. Which is why I have a wife and family, and no porn collection. I do not think this is particularly rare, either. It just doesn't come up in conversation much.

Foxfier said...

And that is my point. Men who have needs other than just raw sex cannot have them gratified by porn, and are therefore not the ones that become addicted to it.

Except that they objectively can, and do; because porn is basically Styrofoam bread-- no nutrients, but you can sink your teeth in and it's filling-- they can believe that it's all there is, especially if they're being gaslit about the physical aspect being all that matters.

Not like this is new, Puddleglum did a rather epic smash against such rot for CS Lewis back when my mom was little.

Needed to be said-- so even then, they knew the tactic, and knew it needed a counter:

“One word, Ma'am," he said, coming back from the fire; limping, because of the pain. "One word. All you've been saying is quite right, I shouldn't wonder. I'm a chap who always liked to know the worst and then put the best face I can on it. So I won't deny any of what you said. But there's one more thing to be said, even so. Suppose we have only dreamed, or made up, all those things-trees and grass and sun and moon and stars and Aslan himself. Suppose we have. Then all I can say is that, in that case, the made-up things seem a good deal more important than the real ones. Suppose this black pit of a kingdom of yours is the only world. Well, it strikes me as a pretty poor one. And that's a funny thing, when you come to think of it. We're just babies making up a game, if you're right. But four babies playing a game can make a play-world which licks your real world hollow. That's why I'm going to stand by the play world. I'm on Aslan's side even if there isn't any Aslan to lead it. I'm going to live as like a Narnian as I can even if there isn't any Narnia. So, thanking you kindly for our supper, if these two gentlemen and the young lady are ready, we're leaving your court at once and setting out in the dark to spend our lives looking for Overland. Not that our lives will be very long, I should think; but that's a small loss if the world's as dull a place as you say.”

Ilíon said...

Don't forget that the libertines (i.e. the sexual perverts who invented feminism as a means to convince women to each willingly aspire to be "the village bicycle") have *also* spent the past century and more teaching boys and young men that "The Big O" is all they really want, or need.

Foxfier said...

FWIW, I group that into the "user a-hole" category.

With apologies to useful body parts.

Gaslighting is evil because it teaches folks to look for the wrong thing-- and when it doesn't work, they usually look for more.