A few months back, as our anniversary was coming up, I went shopping for a card for my wife. Not just any card, an Avanti card. Avanti makes greeting cards that are both funny and heartfelt. I simply cannot abide the standard Hallmark drivel, so I go out of my way to get an Avanti.
One of the places that carried them was Barnes and Noble. As I walked through the store, searching for their greeting card section, I went past row after row of shelves carrying novels. I'd not been to a bookstore in a long time and certainly not since I decided to try my hand at fiction, so it hit me differently that it had before.
My idea for writing one or more novels was a stupid waste of time.
If what I'm doing isn't going to make a difference, preferably a big difference, then what's the point? Even if a miracle happened and I got my novel published, it would occupy a tiny section on a shelf of a rack of similar books with nothing to differentiate it. Within 2-3 months, it would be in the remainder bin and then it would be thrown away, never to be seen again.
What was the point?
Then I started thinking about my dad and his painting. My father took up painting after a career marked with substantial successes. He spent his last 20 or so productive years at the craft of painting and sold exactly 1 canvas. He never even tried to sell his paintings. He would loan them out to friends and family, but "loan" meant "loan." At any time, he could show up at your house with a different painting and demand to swap it out because he wanted the one in your house back.
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| I kept many of his paintings. This one, "The Weir" was always my favorite. It hangs in my study. |
As an ENFJ, where EVERYTHING YOU DO MUST SERVE SOMETHING IMPORTANT, the thought of straining to knock out even one novel only to have it rejected by all publishers or sit on a dusty shelf in a bookstore before it was thrown out was just too much. Writing was going to mean nothing at all.
So, Dad, why did you do it? Why did you take all those classes and then move on to being taught by a local master craftsman? Why did you spend all that time in museums, learning what moved you and why the painter had chosen this technique instead of that? What was the point? You never sold anything and no one knows your name.
He wasn't around to answer. Not for the first time did I deeply miss my father and wish I could have just one more deep conversation with him, the him that existed about 10 years before his death.
I kept turning the problem over in my mind. At the same time, scenes from my fiction ideas kept popping into my head and I couldn't help working out the dialog and prose for this section or that as I drove. Still, who cared? No one was ever going to read what I wrote just like nearly no one saw his paintings.
That didn't matter to him. Why?
He was painting for himself, not for everyone else. That finally came to me. Once I had that key, everything fell into place. The vacations in Europe with my mom were all about going to places he wanted to paint and that had museums he wanted to visit. He mastered the craft because he wanted to express himself through art, through images of scenes he loved and he didn't care how many people saw them.
I could just hear him telling me. He'd done his bit for king, country and family. It was time he did something for himself. Looking back, I can remember my mom telling me this in full-throated support of it. She adored him. He'd been a hero in many ways and she loved the fact that he was painting. That it didn't do anything to put money in her pocket or bring her social standing meant nothing. He loved painting and that's why he did it.
In a way, he was the canvas that was being painted. With each year, the picture of him as an artist came more into focus. The important product wasn't ultimately the collection of canvases. It was the man he became by seriously pursuing something beautiful. The classes, museums, travel, study, failures, improved technique, and years of looking carefully at the world were brushstrokes on him.
Because he painted for an audience of one, he could paint what he wanted the way he wanted. Being the man he was, he worked hard at it. He wasn't avant-garde, he was a storyteller who used oil paints and a canvas to tell stories.
As I get older, I have involuntarily become more like him. I can't help it. And here I am, contemplating creating art that will bring me nothing just like his paintings brought him nothing, if you are only counting fame and fortune.
I felt a weight being lifted off of my shoulders. If I wrote my stories for an audience of 1, I could do as I pleased with my content. Not in terms of writing rubbish, but in terms of writing the stories I want to write. I'm not a creature of 2026 and I have no interest in writing what sells today. Now I don't have to.
Writing for an audience of 1, just like painting for an audience of 1, doesn't let you off the hook when it comes to honing your skills. I won't have the time he had, but I can still work hard to explore the craft and write as well as I can.
My father painted scenes from Europe and the American Southwest with a few Wisconsin and New England bits thrown in for good measure. Would they have sold if he'd been trying? Maybe. But painting for sales drives decisions that would result in subject matter he might not have liked. Painting for himself, his choices of content, lighting and mood were entirely his.
I want to write comedic adventure-romances whose underlying moral logic is profoundly Catholic and whose romantic elements are chivalric. In a world where romantasy porn is the #1 fiction genre, that's about as against the grain as you can get.
By writing for 1, I can write my Bobby Lee and Basil adventures and my Hardy Boys knock-off comedies and not worry about anything other than improving my prose with each writing session.
That's what Dad did with his paintings. I could do a lot worse than follow in that man's footsteps.



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